Quick Tips: Please Rise / Be Seated

A Little Nudge Goes a Long Way: Helping Guests Know When to Stand and Sit During the Ceremony

One of the most charming moments of any wedding ceremony is the entrance of the bride or partner. It’s the big “ta-da!” The music swells, all eyes turn, and there’s this magical moment of anticipation. But here’s the thing—unless someone cues them, guests are often left guessing: Are we supposed to stand? Now? Or... now?

That’s where you, dear officiant, come in.

It’s a small detail, but inviting guests to rise as the bride or partner enters the ceremony space is a thoughtful touch that keeps things flowing smoothly. Say it with a smile and warmth, something like:

“Please rise for the bride.”or “Please stand welcome (Name of Partner) and their escort, (Name and relation).

Ex: "Please stand to welcome, Julie and her mother, Janice."

Inclusive language is always appreciated—remember, not every ceremony follows the traditional bride/groom script. Using terms like “partner,” “honored guest,” or “the one we’re here to celebrate” keeps the vibe respectful and modern.

Once the bride or partner arrives at the front, the moment can linger. Maybe there’s a blessing or a heartfelt hug between them and their escort. But once that concludes, your next cue is simple:

“You may be seated.”

A small gesture with your hand helps, too. It sets everyone at ease and avoids that awkward “are-we-standing-too-long?” shuffle.

Next, the show must go on—and by show, we mean the dress and bouquet moment. Often, a maid of honor, person of honor, or friend with fabulous reflexes will step in to fluff the dress or train, take the bouquet, and make sure everything is in place before the vows begin. This isn't your job, officiant, but being patient for a few seconds while they work their magic is part of the rhythm. You can offer to hold a bouquet if it helps the person of honor do their thing!

Bottom line? You’re not just leading a ceremony—you’re stage-managing a once-in-a-lifetime moment. A few simple cues from you keep everyone comfortable and focused on the joy of the day.

So cue the rise. Cue the sit. Smile through it. And enjoy a beautiful ceremony!